Budgets and teens: controlling impulses

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As responsible parents, we are not only ‘mum and dad’, we are educators. We may directly – or indirectly – set an example to our young people that informs their approach on a variety of things: how to cooperate with others; how to handle difficult situations; or how to weigh up choices they have to make in life.

Personal, Social and Health Education

Life skills discussions at school are delivered on a variety of topics, many of which are also on the school curriculum. These include philosophical/ethical discussions or practical advice on issues such as staying safe online. These lessons spark follow-on conversations at home and form a useful part of every teenager’s personal development.

What about money management?

However, none (so far) has dealt with the matter of personal finance. As parents, how do we set an example to our teens on how they can manage their finances? Where do we begin in showing our young people how to manage their hard-earned money?

How to manage money becomes more pressing when our teens start making a little pocket money of their own, either through a part-time job or perhaps by earning a bit of commission on tasks they might do to help at home (Dave Ramsey’s preferred approach).

Lots of parents I know also provide a monthly allowance, so that their teenagers can make decisions on how to spend their own cash. This begins to instil some self-discipline; our own daughter commented that having a pot of money for which she was responsible helped control her ‘impulses’.

Under 19’s account

We found that opening a bank account was a great first step towards our teen developing financial literacy. There are some great accounts around, such as TSB’s under 19’s account. Opening a ‘proper’ bank account (as opposed to a savings account over which a ‘controlling adult’ still has full oversight) was a key milestone. A meeting with the bank manager was necessary and the formality surrounding the account-opening event signalled a step-change in the financial life of our teen.

Do apps help?

As well as the online banking app provided, I suggested that an app like Spending would be useful. By using the app, our daughter could immediately record transactions she had done. She soon realised that a transaction could take a few days to show on her actual account, so being able to keep a record that was bang up to date was incredibly useful. Now that she is more accustomed to checking her own bank’s app, she has let go of the need to do this cross-check but it can be useful at first.

Controlling those impulses

Amy from More Time than Money wrote a really good post on impulse buying, which links really well with these thoughts. As adults who care about sticking to a budget, we already know it’s important to be super-intentional with our spending.

It’s no different for teens: they soon begin to appreciate the value of things when they have to pay for it themselves. The cost of eating out, for example, (something our girl’s group enjoys), can be expensive. Choosing to go out to eat might mean passing up another opportunity or deciding not to purchase something new for a party.

So, when I think about teens and spending, there are a number of things I’d say:

  • Keep some for a rainy day
  • Be intentional with your cash
  • Know that buying X may preclude you from buying Y
  • Just because everyone else is buying one doesn’t mean you have to
  • Do you really need it?
  • How useful will it be?
  • Would you buy it at full price, if it wasn’t on offer now?
  • Would a lower-priced item do just as well?
  • Can you get it at a lower price second hand?
  • Can you borrow one?
  • Do you already have one that would do just as well?

Hmm. Maybe this is good advice for all of us – for kids of all ages – as we enter the ‘season of acquisition’.

What advice would you give your teenage self on money matters? Do let me know by replying to this post, below.


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2 thoughts on “Budgets and teens: controlling impulses

  1. Glad you find my mantra’s useful and thanks for sharing. Many a time have I put something back on the shelf in a shop, thinking to myself, “This can stay money”.

    I’ve got 10 years to really get my head around how I am going to deal with this with my son! I think you’re right, it’s a combination of setting a good example and giving hands on experience.
    Remembering back, it’s so hard as a teen, because just having the right stuff often seems like it’ll solve all your problems.

    I was fortunate that I had the opportunity to go on an expensive overseas sports trip when I was 16. My gorgeous parents would have moved heaven and earth to get me on that trip, but they made it my responsibility to get the funds together in the first instance. I had an after school babysitting empire so it wasn’t too hard. I learnt the benefits of delayed gratification at a pivotal time in my life. I could have frittered away that money on clothes and CDs, instead I got to go on my first trip and experience another country independently.

    My school also did a wise thing. We did a lot of fundraising and most of that money was apportioned by how much you participated in the fundraising efforts. Work = reward, no free rides. I saved and fundraiser the requisite amount and as a rework my parents gave me a generous top up for my spending money.

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  2. Thanks for commenting, Amy! The fundraising opportunity is something our teen is also involved with; they get to realise how hard it can be (and how tenacious you need to be) to save for a trip such as the one you describe.

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